If you’re frustrated because you’re not getting the results you want in your business or your life, it could very well be because you’re focusing on them too much. Of course, it IS important to know what you want, but focusing constantly on what you want is a different story, and might be the problem.
I often say you’ll start making money once you stop focusing on making money.
You’ll start selling better once you stop focusing on selling.
You’ll start recruiting more once you stop focusing on recruiting.
The same can be said for most people in almost every area of their lives – the more you focus on the results, the more you’ll push them away.
*Important Note: If this doesn’t describe you – if you always get what you focus on – that’s great. But still read this whole article because you’ll understand what most others are going through, and you’ll be able to lead and influence more people.
Now, I know that on the surface this concept goes 100% against the Law of Attraction, which says you’ll attract what you focus on, so let me explain further…
Typical goal-setting training says if you focus on what you want, you’ll be motivated to get it, and you’ll do the activities that lead to results. That’s why a lot of people have goal posters filled with tangible stuff that they want to acquire.
However, your life’s purpose is not acquisition. While the accumulation of money, toys, cars, titles, etc. can definitely be fun, it will never be the source of true inspiration for you, or anyone.
It’s the intangible rewards that get us going internally. Personal and professional growth, going to sleep tonight a better person than when you woke up this morning, helping others grow and learn – those are the types of intangible things your heart and unconscious mind truly want to experience in life.
After all, your unconscious mind can’t drive a new car! 😉
For a select few people, though, focusing on tangible results will elicit the intangible inspiration. In other words, looking at the cars, houses and money will trigger the internal feelings of accomplishment and desire to act. However, that’s only for a very small percentage.
If you’re like most people, focusing on something tangible that you don’t have right now only reminds you of the fact that you don’t have it! And that tends to create what I call a ‘cycle of lack’.
This ‘cycle of lack’ generally causes you to start focusing on other things that you don’t have, and other goals you never achieved, which leads to negative emotions, as you think about all the times you fell short in the past.
And those emotions lead to similar thoughts, which lead to more negative emotions, etc – it can easily turn into a vicious cycle ending in frustration, overwhelm and ultimately de-motivation. Does this sound familiar at all?
So in the long run, constantly focusing on the results will negatively energize the whole process for most of us. I call us the “” because only about 3 percent of the population can focus on tangible results and get intangibly inspired to act. That’s why only around 3% of the people ever progress on to the next level of success in any arena, following typical goal-setting methods.
Us “97 Percenters” need something different. Read the next post to find out more.
