During the summer of 1995, as I was getting ready to go back to college for my senior year, I had one of those heart-to-heart conversations with a good friend of mine, Kameel. We were talking about girls (what else do 22-year-old guys talk about?) and I shared that I was starting to think about having a family some day since my baseball career was coming to a close.
The quandary I was in, however, was that I had created a perfect mate in my head when I was younger, and I never wanted to settle for anything less that that (which is why I didn’t have many girlfriends in school – they never measured up to what I wanted).
So I told Kameel I was at a crossroads – do I stay committed to my dream until I find the perfect wife, understanding that it might take years or decades, if it even happens at all, or do I settle for someone who comes close so I can achieve my goal of raising a family?
I remember very clearly my answer: “I will not settle, even if it means I never get married or have a family.” I had made a decision. This is what I want and I won’t tolerate anything less.
Less than a week later, I started dating Cybil. To say she fit the ‘perfect mold’ in my head would be lying. She blew it out of the water. We’ve been together for over 10 years now, married 9 of them, and haven’t argued once.
What I now realize is that I attracted Cybil into my life, just as the Law of Attraction teaches us. Whatever you focus on, expands and is attracted to you. Plus, if you’re clear about what you want, you’ll always know what to look for in your environment. It is absolutely critical that you focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want – because that’s what you’ll attract.
